Our thoughts about these actions and spoken words are what make them annoying, or not.
Most of the time, we cannot change how people act or speak, but we can change how we react to them.
In many cases, the only thing you can do is to change your thoughts.
Another important point is that other people in themselves are not annoying.
In the 11 years since our wedding day, Mike and I have experienced our fair share of "annoyances" that crop up when you're a married couple.
Though we've gotten used to them, these are some of the things that bug me most. They're people, and shouldn't be classified like baked goods. So when people ask us about these major life events, they are also assuming that all couples have complete control of their marriage milestones. After Mike and I married, we spent a lot of time laying around, enjoying each other's company — and eating. After we married both of our savings evaporated, like magic. There is something about marriage that makes money disappear as quickly as it appears. 4.) I hate having long hair, but Mike dislikes short hair on me. I got the message, loud and clear, and my hair is back to being long. That's how we handle all the trivial (and significant) challenges of married life. It took five years for us to conceive our second daughter, who is eight years younger than our first. I cut my hair short recently — then I noticed that Mike immediately stopped shaving. Instead, love your spouse, and focus on the positives.If we get annoyed a lot, it can ruin our day and our mood.So what is the best way to deal with people who annoy us?When someone says or does something, it is neutral.It only becomes an annoyance if we think certain thoughts about his or her actions or words. You, on the other hand, have thoughts that deem his humming or his choice of song as being negative. Without your negative thoughts about his humming, the humming is neutral. We were baby-faced, long-distance college sweethearts. " My internal response: I can't wait to hit "delete friend! That person is acting in a way that is normal to him or her.When we think that person should not act in that way and view ourselves as being better than him, we then have expectations and get all riled up.